How do you deal with people like this?
This is total unrelated to Wicca, or my it is. I had an incident I guess you’d call it, with some co-workers at work. As the senior member of the group and the person who trained most of these people, something had come up so I sent out a memo about the correct way to do something. A couple of the people jumped all over me. “who told you this”, “I though I supposed to do it this way. I want to know who told you this”. I explained to them I was only providing information. I get a e mail from one of these co-workers saying I should have gone through the team lead for this. All I was doing was trying to remind them. I guess I probable got more upset than the situation warranted but I am getting real tired of personal attacks at this place where I work. This one co-worker who sent me the e mail considers herself a good Christian., she is studying a lot at church. She has talked to me about the importance of love . I find no love in her actions an feel she is a bit of a hypocrite. I had another incident with one of of these co-workers where she announce in the team meeting that my New Years resolution was the my goal was to keep my mouth shut during team meetings. I do tend to be outspoken but it is because i have ideas and see things that need to be fixed. I learn how things work and try to make them work better. I can’t help it.
I can’t understand that kind of meanness. They don’t even realize they are doing it, that’s the sad part. I certainly am not feeling the love.
We had a team meeting this morning and I am going in late to work and didn’t go to the meeting so I didn’t have to look at their faces. I can retreat to my cube and work. I’ll be better about tomorrow but I am just so mad about the whole thing.
But maybe too, I should have the love and let go of this. they too are human. Their actions may not have been purposeful and they are doing what they thought was right at the time. I usually don’t stay mad for long but I guess I feel very hurt about the whole thing. I feel betrayed somehow and there’s me and them not the whole team anymore. I feel so strongly about the whole thing that I was ready to quit. I am uncomfortable being there now.
Well. I guess I am done. we shall see what happens. Goddess Bless
February 8th, 2007 at 10:43 PM
So nobody really criticized what you said – they had a problem with how you said it, and the fact that you did not go through ‘the appropriate channels’? This is not about love, right or wrong – it’s about petty office politics and folks marking their turf. The folks attacking you feel threatened by you. That’s their baggage, and you shouldn’t read too much into it. And always remember a fundamental law – what goes around, comes around, and eventually everyone’s baggage catches up with them. Ignore them. -AtR
February 9th, 2007 at 11:45 AM
I agree with Ajax, they will get theirs….but I do think you should speak to them. I don’t think you should hide. I to have been out spoken and you know what happened with that. If they want to be mad at you let them. If you speak the truth then it is on them, not you. Just don’t hide, stand for your truth, defend your truth. I can’t tell you that things will be better, but I am telling you that the people who can’t take it, walk away, and my life is much happier with out them….just be yourself….:)
February 9th, 2007 at 1:14 PM
Thanks for your supportive words. Things are a bit uncomforatble still at work. I still feel that it was a personal issue because offense was taken about the information I provided which provoked a direct attack against me. I realized later that part of their issue was that they had been doing it wrong. I had only wanted to send a reminder to the group and felt persicuted for it. As you both said, they will get theirs. I went through the approriate channels at work afterwards and the cards may fall. I am sad that this happened at all. Especially when you just thought you were doing something good.